Parenting and Being a Fun BOSS Dad

Parenting and Being a Fun BOSS Dad

Posted by Jeremy Thompson on Apr 6th 2020

I feel so lucky and fortunate to have my children in my life. So everyday I tell my children, “Nyaweh/thank you for choosing me.”

Before I jump into everything here, I want to give you my 3 rules to parenting. Rules I remind myself of everyday:

1. Gentleness (be kind)
2. Inner Child (be a child with them–have fun)
3. Observe (be the parent -lead)

That’s the way I want to interact with them everyday.

They say kids don’t come with instructions. You create your own instructions. For me, I just want to be a fun badass dad. But, I realize that it isn’t all fun and games. There are always times when anger and frustration come out. And what I’ve learned to do in those moments is to take some time to breathe, to acknowledge my anger/frustration, and let go, practice forgiveness, be in my truth and be direct. It is always important to stop and listen to others. There is never a good time to make excuses with your children, you just have to own it.

What has helped my parenting and connection with my children is understanding and being considerate that my world is different from my children’s in how they perceive things in the world around them. So when it comes to connecting with my kids, it’s important that I put myself in their world as often as I can.

I find working on behaviors like supporting, encouraging, listening and negotiating differences, not so much in the beginning, but over time, and staying consistent makes all the difference in the world for me. I’m a firm believer it will be beneficial to all of us in the long run, as I also become the best dad friend they can trust.

Some negative practices that I need to change and continue to work are bribing and rewarding for control. “Choice Theory Psychology states that: All we do is behave. Almost all behavior is chosen, and we are driven by our genes to satisfy six basic needs: survival, love/belonging, power, freedom and fun.”

I believe that when you are able to give your child a choice and options to follow, it empowers them in experiencing many different emotions to build confidence within themselves as they encounter many life experiences in the now into the future.

I am working hard, learning a lot and hopefully on my way to becoming the father that my children deserve, all the while becoming the best version of myself.

You have to make the changes you need in your life and tell yourself more then often, I’M DOING THE BEST I CAN FOR NOW. Nyaweh, for choosing me.

Jeremy Thompson
GAA’GWAGAIHE’ ‘The sun is leaning’